Why do you care so much?
Posted in Philosophy by Lpspider on December 15th, 2006 Now first, before I go further, let me clarify. I’m not saying you shouldn’t care about anything or anyone. Apathy can kill a man. What I’d like to write about and ask you is: why do you care so much what people think? You should value their opinions, but not to such an extent that you’re doing things so they’ll think better of you.
First, seriously consider that question. Why do you care what your friends, family, and co-workers think? Why?
I’ll answer that for you. It’s because you want to fit in. Fit into what? Fit into a label society has given you. To fit in, in more cases than not, into an organization of self-centeredness.
Now comes the next question: why do you feel the need to fit in? How many times have you wanted to stand up for something you believe in, only to give up because you don’t want to break the mold?
What if you didn’t care? What if it made no difference to you if you sat by yourself at the lunch table? What if you weren’t ashamed of your passions or beliefs? Has there ever been a situation in your life in which you knew you should say something, you knew you were supposed to say or do something, yet you didn’t? What if you had said or done it? Things could be different.
Image yourself at such a point that you value other people’s opinions, yet you don’t care what they think of you. I’m at such a point, and it’s such a blessing. This isn’t a point where you do drastic things to prove that you don’t care – that is showing you do care that they think you don’t care.
To not care what people think mentally of you is to be free from the shackles that pervious bound you. A burden is lifted. When you’re not bound, it’s as if you’re free and open to your true potential. When you don’t care, you take away their control. As an individual, nothing is more satisfying.
I suppose that my point is that too many times we don’t say or do things that need to be said or done, because we’re ashamed. We want to, but because we’re afraid of what others will think, we don’t. Don’t be such a person. Don’t give up control of your life.
